I could use five “critical illness” days to care for her

Dear Mr. President:

Thank you for the opportunity to write on an issue that is important to many of us.

My daughter has Neurofibromatosis Type 1. NF-1 is a genetic, chronic disease that causes tumors to grow on her nerves and can cause many other issues including scoliosis. The disorder manifests itself differently in every affected person and my daughter’s case is thankfully mild. We received a diagnosis when she was five and coasted along for five years. Then the beginning signs of adolescence appeared and, as is typical with children with NF, they came early.

At her 10-year physical the pediatrician checked her back and we were shocked by a large protruding hump near her shoulder blades that her chiropractor had not seen at a regular adjustment just a month prior. She had undergone a rapid growth spurt and her spine had reacted by forming a sixty degree angle near her shoulder blades. Six months later Natalie was scheduled for surgery to correct severe scoliosis that, if not corrected, could cause her ribs to “float” into her lungs or heart, debilitating pain, and other horrible side effects. The surgeon described the worst case scenario for us to prepare for. This would be a ten to twelve hour surgery; she would be in the ICU for two nights and the hospital for another five to seven. Once she was home she would need around the clock care while she regained her ability to stand and walk without pain. She would be out of school for six weeks.

I called the insurance company. They would cover the surgery and hospitalization but she needed to first meet the $1500 deductible and, even then, we would have to pay 20% of the surgeon’s bills. Then I checked my teacher’s union contract and spoke with the union president regarding my options. They were slim. I could use five “critical illness” days to care for her. I would then need to apply for FMLA and while I would not lose my position I would not be paid.

Five? She would be in the hospital for more than that! Five? If someone has a “critical illness” I think by definition it would require being ill for more than five days. After some tears, I decided that I had no other option. My daughter needed me. I needed to be with her. This was a traumatic, terrifying life event for little girl and I was going to be there with her–even if it meant missing a mortgage payment…or two. I petitioned the superintendent and asked for some rule-bending. If I got two doctor notes could I be paid for five days for her hospitalization and for five additional days for her recovery at home? His answer was no and I knew I needed to respect his adherence to a contract. We struggled and figured it out and I returned to work at a point when my daughter still needed me but her grandmother was a suitable substitute. I was exhausted and emotionally spent and I did not give my job my all and that upset me even further. But I had no other choice—the medical bills were already arriving in the mail.

The CT Campaign for Family Leave and the Family Values at Work organization are working hard to raise awareness of this issue to help working mothers like me find a way to care for a child with a chronic disease. The lack of paid family leave in the United States can be detrimental to families already struggling with a family member with a chronic illness or disability. Children with NF or other chronic illnesses are already fighting a long, terrifying battle. They need their parents by their sides focusing on nothing but their care—not how they will pay the growing pile of bills.

Thank you for considering this issue that is close to my heart.

Most Respectfully,

Sara
Stratford, CT

cc: Connecticut Governor Dannel P. Malloy